Limiting beliefs and how to get rid of them
Does the way I think affect what my beliefs are? Definitely. We can think about life events either in the context of "moving FORWARD" or in the context of "moving AWAY". What do you think, what is your way of thinking? To understand more about what characterizes each of these mindsets, let's look at the example of moving. Imagine that you have planned such a life event as moving to another city. The "Moving FORWARD" way of thinking allows you to look and focus on the opportunities that this life event will bring: "I can't wait to move, get to know a new environment, new people, new places and things that will expand my vision." "Moving AWAY" focuses thoughts and views on the burdens associated with this event: "moving again, it's so complicated, it will take so much time and energy, moving all the things, I feel tired of it already". This is a great example of how our way of thinking and perspective on events affects how we feel. I look at the event positively = I feel excited, inspired. I look at the event as a complication = I feel tired, my overall energy level drops. This does not mean that focusing on the opportunities and good aspects of the event makes the complications disappear. Moving is usually a time-consuming and laborious process, but with a positive attitude, we have much more energy and even the difficult process becomes more enjoyable. And isn't life all about the process? Make it full of joy and light, even if it's complicated?
My way of thinking has a profound effect on what beliefs I form about life and myself, what beliefs I allow myself to adopt and embody in my everyday life as my guides. So, first of all, if we want to change our beliefs, we must also change our way of thinking. The way I look at life in general. What is my view.
My beliefs can move me forward, inspire, build and develop, be like a powerful internal engine that makes me work. These are evolving beliefs. This time I'm drawing attention to limiting beliefs that slow us down, make us not believe in our own abilities, prevent us from acting, make us stay where we actually don't feel good. Some examples:
I will have "heavy wings" all my life
this life has failed
I don't like/I'm not good at sports
in our family, all the women are in unhappy relationships
earning a lot and doing what you like is impossible
everything comes hard in life
work is not a garden of roses and fun
it's not worth trying, I won't succeed anyway
everyone in our family is a failure
not everyone can be rich and beautiful
I'm not good enough to do that
it can't be that everything in life goes as planned
I am not capable and brave enough to do it
Limiting beliefs are usually generalized and absurd. If we look deeper and start asking clarifying questions like "who said that? do you have examples of it? have you seen/experienced it yourself? do you have evidence?", we remain without answers.
Our beliefs are formed already in childhood - from family, neighbors, teachers, care persons. I must immediately get rid of the desire to blame someone for the fact that I have developed limiting beliefs. Our parents also had parents who may not have done everything right. Let's forgive our own if something has happened to us too, and let's focus on the future and opportunities to change, so that tomorrow will be more fulfilling.Even in adulthood, we adopt limiting beliefs, such as being in a toxic relationship with a manipulative partner. The less confident I am in myself and my abilities, the easier it is for others to manipulate me and make me believe limiting beliefs.
It turns out that if I get rid of limiting beliefs, I solve most of my problems. The question certainly arises - if it is so simple, why is everyone in this world not successful and happy? Because we all know very well WHAT needs to be done, but most of the time we are too lazy to actually do it and get out of our comfort zone. I'm comfortable where I am, even if things aren't exactly as they appear in my dreams. However, I know everything here very well and can feel like a "fish in water". That's why it's vital to work on your beliefs, because developing beliefs is like an inner spark that prevents you from sitting on the couch for too long and doing nothing.It should also be understood that any aspect of work with oneself, changing one's way of thinking, changing one's views, will not be quick. We always want quick and immediate results and are ready to give up when after two 10-minute meditations, life has not changed.
Armed with patience and a genuine desire to change, we can shed limiting beliefs and instead develop forward-moving beliefs. How to achieve this? First of all, you must check your beliefs and recognize which of them are limiting and inhibiting my development. Once we have recognized them, we can start working with them:
change your way of thinking, look at the world as a place rich in resources and opportunities, and developing beliefs will form by themselves,
use meditation - guided meditation that includes developing and positive beliefs will allow these beliefs to take root in your subconscious,
seek help - a coach, psychologist, art therapist, or maybe even a friend with whom you can make a weekly discussion club.
It doesn't matter what tools you use to improve yourself, the main thing is a true desire to develop and understand which tools and ways to improve are the most suitable for you.
A person who does not have their own goals is easily manipulated
A person who does not have their own goals is easily manipulated and there are many people around who will use it for their own benefit.
Human capacity are unlimited! We can all become anything we want. We just need to know what our true desires are.
A properly set goal that includes your values will be easy to achieve. Fulfilling dreams and goals happens through a beautiful process of action, not overnight with the help of a magic wand.
Your magic wand is you and your actions, your habits, your priorities, your values and beliefs.
Limiting beliefs - does EVERYTHING in life really come through HARD work?
Have you heard people around you say: "You need to study well to get a job when you grow up"; "Nothing in life comes by chance, everything can be achieved only through hard work"; “Any work is hard and no fun”; "Everyone can't be rich and beautiful"?
These are called limiting beliefs. If we take a closer look at each of them and think analytically, it becomes clear very quickly how absurd these statements are. Is it really so? Who said that? Is there evidence for this? There are no answers to these questions.
Until the age of 7, we are like sponges. Everything we absorb up to this age forms our views on the world around us. If our parents told us all our childhood that we need to study well in order to find a job, then this will also be our opinion and belief that studies are only so that I can find a job and work after completing it. In fact, you need to study to broaden your horizons. And it doesn't say that you have to find a job. Maybe I would do better by becoming an entrepreneur?!
And what a heavy burden it is to believe all your life that nothing in life comes easily or for nothing...
Our beliefs DO have an impact on our lives and also on the world around us. Very big impact.
When we free ourselves from limiting beliefs, the ability to change reality becomes very understandable.
I will succeed in everything in life! Work is also a source of joy and happiness! This life is my best life!
These are just a few examples of positive and forward-thinking attitudes that help us become the architects of our own happy lives. What we think about life is also what happens in our life, our thoughts and beliefs shape our beliefs and our beliefs make us take specific actions that shape our life.
Yes, opinions CAN be changed. The path to change takes work and the desire to change something in life, but it is an extremely interesting path and a powerful tool once we understand what we can do with it.
Do you have any limiting beliefs?
How do I communicate with myself?
We are very passionate and invest our time and energy in how we communicate with others, develop our skills to make a good impression. That’s not bad, it is also necessary, but in reality our most important communication is with ourselves. What do I tell myself (and also to others) about myself? How often do I say “I am happy”, “I am joyful”, “I am sweet”, “I am healthy”, “I am valuable”?
What I tell myself every day in the form of being through "I am" shapes my actions. The form of being is the second highest level of your logical consciousness, which accordingly subordinates and adjusts the lower levels - environment, actions, values and beliefs. If I say to myself "I am a disaster" every day, I could certainly write a blog about a disastrous course of life. That is, I define myself at the level of being and my actions begin to align with it, my beliefs and values begin to align. And as a result, my being is also formed in reality as I define it.
I can tell you an example from my life. Being in a long-term relationship, I didn't feel happy for a long time and I saw that my partner didn't feel happy either. It's like you understand, but it's not that bad, and how can you get over it and change your whole life, when you've been together for so long and all your life is shared?! It's amazing how sometimes the comfort zone pulls us in so much that we are ready to be unfulfilled even for years.
How did healthy communication with myself helped me here? I told myself every morning before my meditation - I AM A LOVED WOMAN. At first it felt uncomfortable to say that to myself because I didn't feel like it. And it wasn't because my partner didn't love me or was a bad person, I still have a lot of respect for him. I think he loved, but in a way that didn't make me happy and therefore I couldn't make him happy either. The illusion of a happy marriage had to crumble.
I gradually programmed myself to be a loved woman and suddenly I had the courage to make bold decisions and actions to help both of us end this relationship respectfully. Actions and decisions that seemed out of my reach before. How will I make a living on my own? Where will I live? Won't I be afraid to be alone? It turns out that I had enough strength to solve it all. And I continued to put this statement in myself, which after more than two years of hard work with myself has resulted, first of all, in self-love and the ability to choose the best and most loving partner.
At the end of the day, our lives are shaped by what we choose to think about ourselves. It is like a promise to ourselves that we promise to fulfill by our actions. You just have to want to it. Just that simple.
